Mastering the Mommy – Wife Balance: Surprising Reasons He Loves Your Post-Baby Body

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You’re excited about your new baby, but you’re also a little worried. There’s that nagging voice in the back of your head. It won’t shut up.

“Will my husband still find me attractive after the baby is born?”

It’s a common fear shared by many moms-to-be who are anxious about their post baby body. Well, here’s what your husband is thinking, but won’t ever say to your face.

 

“I Don’t Understand Your Pain, But I Understand The Results”

A surprising number of men “feel your pain,” even if they can never understand it. Many men had their “glory days” back in high school or college. They were the wrestling champ, the star football player. Maybe they lifted weights and tried to stay in shape. When they got serious about their career and got married, things started to change. After a baby, things start to change dramatically.

And, that’s when their bodies start to change, and not always for the better. They lose their hair, they get fatter, they start to show signs of getting older. Some men even pursue plastic surgery to “fix” what they think is “wrong” with them, according to KRPlasticSurgery.com.

So, while you might think you’re husband looks at you differently, it might not be in a negative light. You may have just found a stronger partner who can relate to you (at least on some level).

 

“I Like Your Stretch Marks”

Some men like stretch marks. It’s a sign of maturity. For some, it’s a sign of beauty because children are beauty. It seems strange, but it’s true.

 

“I Hate Fakeness, And I Appreciate The “Realness Of Your Body”

Many men are just as cautious about women who try too hard to look sexy as you are about men trying to “act younger than they really are.” There’s a sort of fakeness to it – one that men sense from a mile away. Being pregnant, and having your body change, is about as authentic as it gets. Embrace it.

Some men go so far as to say that they hate plastic surgery and don’t want their wife to have her boobs done, butt lifted, and cheeks filled out. Of course, if you ask your hubby whether you look fat in your jeans, he’s unlikely to tell you the truth. The truth can hurt sometimes. And, he loves you and doesn’t want to hurt you.

 

“I’m A Jerk and I Know It”

Of course, not all men appreciate a postpartum body. Some husbands really won’t understand their wives, what they’re going through, or appreciate the gravity of the situation. And, those men end up single.

 

If your husband seems to be disconnected from you and what you’re going through, you might have a problem. Sometimes, men “tune out” and believe that depression or a change in your attitude is “all in your head.”

For these men, they have a serious empathy problem, for sure. But, what should you do? What can you do?

Sometimes, nothing. But, if you open up a conversation about it, you’re sure to find out. And, that can give you valuable information – regardless of how things turn out.

 

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This is a guest post by Dr Kevin M. Ruhge who is an Aesthetic Plastic Surgeon. He is a member of the American Society of Plastic Surgeons and is always keen to take the opportunity to share his views and research with an online audience. He has already written a number of articles about reconstructive surgery.

Join Our Fight Against Wound Infection – Say #NoToStaphy

I seldom attend events especially when they are set on weekdays but one Wednesday morning last year had me getting ready to go out right after the kids hopped onto their school service.  What had me waking up extra early and braving the morning traffic? An invitation from LEO Pharma™ and their digital partner PurpleBug® to a Mommy Bloggers Meet and Greet Event featuring talks about wound care by Dr. Kristine Guitierrez and Dr. Irene Gardiner, both experts in the field of medicine.  Yes, I didn’t mind traveling from my little abode in the East all the way to Sofitel Manila and back because I believe that every mom like me SHOULD know proper wound care.

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Dr. Irene Gardiner, Dr. Kristine Gutierrez, and Mr. Lars Olen (VP Leo Pharma Global)

 

WOUND CARE 101: MYTHS DEBUNKED

What’s the first thing you do when your child comes running to you with a wound? I bet the first thing you do is grab that bottle of hydrogen peroxide to clean the wound and to immediately kill the germs. The more bubbles there are the better, right?  I’ll be bursting your bubble but that is SO NOT TRUE!  Hydrogen Peroxide may kill some of the germs (I say MAY because it doesn’t always do) but it also destroys the cells that help repair the wound.  The same thing goes for alcohol.  Next time, your child has a minor wound, just wash it with soap and water.

Myth #1:  Wounds should be cleaned with hydrogen peroxide.

Myth Debunked:  Hydrogen Peroxide destroys other cells.  Use soap and water instead.

You check your child’s wound and see that there’s no foul odor coming from it and there’s no drainage.  You breathe a sigh of relief that there’s no infection.  Uh-oh! Better put some medicine on that wound because ALL wounds are susceptible to infection. Even if there’s no foul odor or visible pus, your child’s wound could still be infected.

Myth #2:  All infected wounds have foul odor and drainage.

Myth Debunked:  All wounds are susceptible to infection.

 

After you have cleansed your child’s wound, you keep it dry and uncovered for it to heal faster.  After all, you have always been told that bacteria will flourish under a wound dressing.  Wrong! First, cells need moisture to grow, so keeping your wounds moist will help it heal faster with less scarring.  Second, bacteria will only flourish if you don’t change the dressing regularly.

Myth #3:  Keep wounds dry.

Myth #4: Bacteria will flourish under a wound bandage.

Myths Debunked:  Wounds heal faster if kept moist.

 

Now that we have debunked some of the most common wound care myths, the next thing we moms absolutely need to know is how to properly treat wounds.

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Dr. Kristine Guitierrez says #NoToStaphy with Fucidin!

 

WOUND CARE 101: STEPS TO PROPER WOUND CARE

After finding out that wound should not be cleaned with hydrogen peroxide, I’m sure you’re now at a loss what to do when someone in the family has a wound.  Here are the 7 steps to proper wound care I learned during the event:

 

  1. STOP the bleeding by applying steady but gentle pressure. If necessary, elevate the wounded area.
  2. CLEAN the wound and the area around it with soap and water. Remember, no hydrogen peroxide or alcohol please.
  3. PROTECT against wound infection by using topical medicine such as Fucidin®
  4. COVER big wounds with bandage to decrease chances of infection and to aid in faster healing.
  5. CHANGE the dressings when the bandage becomes dirty or wet.
  6. OBSERVE for signs of infection such as redness, increasing pain, warmth or swelling around the area, and pus oozing out.
  7. CONSULT your doctor if infection does not heal, if the wound needs stitching, if the bleeding does not stop, or if the wound is from animal bites.

 

During the event, I not only learned more about wound care but also received my very own wound care kit.  Inside my first aid kit were sterile cotton balls and cotton-tipped swabs, gauze pads, plastic strips, surgical scissors, medical tape, antiseptic (for sterilizing hands not the wound!), and, of course, my partner in wound care, Fucidin® Ointment.

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SAY NO TO STAPHY, SAY YES TO FUCIDIN

Have you met Staphy? I have met Staphy the mascot and found him cute instead of scary. BUT the real Staphy (staphylococcus aureus) is nowhere near cute.  Staphy lives in our skin and in mucous membranes such as inside the nose.  He isn’t considered harmful on ordinary days but this naughty bacteria wrecks havoc when there’s a break in the skin surface.  Staphy finds its way underneath the skin, multiplies, and infects the skin and underlying tissues in the wound. Naughty Staphy causes nasty wound infections!

STAPHY 1There’s no need to fret though ‘cause LEO PharmaTM has been providing us the best weapon against wound infection – Fucidin®.  I remember Fucidin as one of the medicines we always had in our medicine kit when I was young.  Yes, Fucidin has been in the market for many years now (And, yes, I am old! :D). It has been proven to effectively fight against wound infection without minimal side effects and risk of sensitization.  It’s safe enough to be used by babies and pregnant women.

Fucidin® comes in two formulations – Fucidin® Ointment and Fucidin® Cream.  Dr. Guiterrez shared an easy to remember mnemonic to help us decide which formulation to use:

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If the wound is MOIST, use CREAM.
If the wound is DRY, use OINTMENT

 

JOIN OUR FIGHT AGAINST WOUND INFECTION

As moms, one of our duties is to keep our kids LEO Pharmahealthy and happy.  That also includes making sure that they are well-protected against wound infections.  With partners like LEO PharmaTM whose mission is to help people achieve healthy skin, we moms can go full force against infection.

Join us in our fight and say #NoToStaphy!  Check out the following social media sites to know more about proper care for wound infection and Fucidin®:

 

Fucidin Team

 

#NOTOSTAPHY

Teen Tooth Trends: Understanding the Horrors of Homemade Braces

Some trends turn out to be a good idea and others are the complete opposite, which is certainly the case when it comes to the idea of homemade braces.

You only have to spend a few minutes talking to a teen orthodontist in NYC or anywhere else for that matter, to understand that anyone contemplating the idea of making a homemade brace should think very carefully about the potential consequences of trying to save some money.

The risk to your teeth

A quick search of the internet will most likely reveal someone offering to sell a DIY brace and fix your teeth so that they become nice and straight.

The reality of what could actually happen to your teeth is alarming and rather than fixing your wonky teeth, dental surgeons everywhere are warning that there is just as much chance of losing your teeth altogether rather than turning them into a perfect smile.

The practice being advertised online is referred to as gap band and there is every chance that applying a gap band by following one of the numerous YouTube instructional videos will result in permanent damage to your gums.

No need to go to the dentist

The selling point of this homemade “solution” is that you can straighten your teeth without having any need to visit the dentist.

Whilst this would obviously be a cheaper option it is clearly a terrible idea and if you view a wide offering cheap easy braces the clue is in the dialogue about the dangers, as the demonstrator advises that wearing the bands but it will be worth it in the end.

There is every chance that these homemade braces are going to be the complete opposite of worth it and although the cost comparison between proper dental care and the online DIY kit makes it tempting, there is every reason to resist the urge to cut corners when it comes to your teeth and your oral health in general.

What you could do to your gums

Using these homemade elastic bands is almost certainly going to give you some problems with your gums and any money you save will seem very insignificant when you have to visit your dentist and try and resolve whatever issues you have inflicted on yourself.

What you need to consider is that dentists and orthodontists are professionally trained and now how to apply braces in the correct manner so if you attempt to use these cheaper online bands as an alternative, there is a good chance that too much pressure will be applied to your gums and the blood supply can get cut off.

When this happens, this will change the shape of your gums and cause a severe inflammation and subsequent infection.

Not all of us have dental cover in place to cover the cost of orthodontics but teenagers and anyone for that matter who is considering the DIY route, should think long and hard about buying a homemade alternative to visiting your orthodontist for proper treatment, especially when the ultimate result could be losing their teeth altogether.

 

This is a guest post by Shannon Cross who is studying orthodontics at dentistry school. She became interested in orthodontics as a career after having braces fitted at 13. She shares industry news and what she is learning through her writing for health related blogs.

How To Keep Your Kids Healthy Throughout The Holiday Season

While attending to your child’s health is important throughout the year, it is an especially important enterprise during the holiday season. During this era, unhealthy food, sedentary living, and high stress levels can compromise your child’s immunity and precipitate a host of unwanted diseases. Yet you can preclude this negative cycle from taking place by implementing the following health strategies to keep your kids healthy:

1. Make Sure You Are Healthy.

While you may feel tempted to pour all of your energies into optimizing your children’s health this holiday season, you won’t be able to accomplish your objective if you don’t attend to your own level of wellness. With that idea in mind, make sure you are eating well, exercising regularly, and meditating consistently. Also keep in mind that you may have an undiagnosed illness lurking within your body. If you’re experiencing inexplicable health symptoms right now, use the helpful testing kits offered by companies like Diagnostic Automation/Cortez Diagnostics, Inc. to figure out what’s going on. In addition to offering great fertility elisa kits, the company provides testing kits for conditions such as allergies, anemia, hepatitis, and diabetes.

2. Monitor Your Child’s School Lunches.

This is a strategy you should be implementing all year, but it’s especially important during the holiday season. During this time, students are oftentimes fed festive dishes that are laden with sugar and fat. These processed items will zap your child’s energy and compromise their immunity with lightning speed. Prevent it from happening by packing them delicious, nutritious meals from home. These homecooked meals would surely keep your kids healthy while making them feel loved at the same time. For recipe ideas, do an internet search with a key phrase like “Healthy Holiday Recipes For Kids.”

3. Emphasize Fitness.

Although many children love playing in the snow and engaging in other forms of physical activity throughout the winter, this is not the case for every little boy and girl. In fact, some children enjoy sedentary activities like watching television, reading, texting, and socializing on channels like Twitter and Facebook. To ensure that your child stays mentally and physically alive by exercising, be sure to emphasize fitness throughout the holiday season. You may find it advantageous to get a family gym membership so you can have fun exercising with your children.

Don’t Delay – Start Optimizing Your Child’s Health Right Now!

If you love your child and want her or him to remain healthy and happy throughout the holiday season, you need a game plan. To keep your child’s level of wellness at an all-time high this winter, start implementing the strategies outlined above!

#1MCleanToilets to Prevent 443 Million Missed School Days

It’s Friday the 13th tomorrow and while the superstitious anxiously dread that day, a lot of us are looking forward to it. Well, not just any Friday the 13th, I’m talking specifically about tomorrow, November 13.

What’s so special about it? November 13 is the World Toilet Day. Yes, there is such an event. Lest you think it’s a nonsensical one that is the center of butt jokes, World Toilet Day is for a noble cause. It is part of an advocacy program that aims to improve toilet sanitation.

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Why the big deal about toilet sanitation, you may ask. Well, according to a study conducted by the World Health Organization (WHO), children around the world miss an estimated 443 million school days each year because of diseases caused by poor sanitation and hygiene practices, including using unsanitary toilets. Yes, 443 million school days MISSED – EACH YEAR! That’s about one month of empty grade school and high school classrooms in the Philippines!!! So, yes, toilet sanitation IS a big deal.

Every day, millions of children in rural communities and urban households nationwide are exposed to disease-carrying germs that inhabit dirty toilets. These germs can cause diarrheal diseases and parasitic worm infections which leads to nutritional deficiencies, physical and mental stunting, and even death.

For the past three years, Unilever Philippines through its germ-kill expert brand Domex, has been working with UNICEF and PPHA to champion the One Million Clean Toilets Movement. Through this advocacy, Filipino families can be educated on proper toilet hygiene and the importance of sanitized household toilets. We stress the word SANITIZE because not all clean toilets are free from germs and bacteria. It is essential for everyone to know that proper cleaning materials with effective germ-kill action must be used to clean toilets to ensure our family’s health.

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So, tomorrow, November 13, join us in the One Million Clean Toilets Movement! Together, let’s join the fight against disease causing germs to save lives, one clean toilet at a time. Help spread awareness on the sanitation issue caused by unsanitary toilets by watching and sharing the “Sick Days” video. Don’t forget to use the hashtags #1MCleanToilets and #WorldToiletDay2015 when you share the video. 🙂

To learn more about Domex and how you can stay safe from diseases with a germ-free home, visit Domex Philippines on Facebook.