My toddlers have started to fight over toys and over attention as well.  I have been told that fighting over toys is part of their social and emotional development.  Although it seems that their behavior is nothing out of the ordinary, it does bother me a lot.  I think any mother would be bothered to see their children fighting over a toy flailing wildly at each other.  But I think what bothers me most is how fast they get over the fight.

Once I saw both of them arms up high flailing at each other and both shouting “Mine! Mine!”  But before I could intercede lest they hurt each other really bad,  they were suddenly laughing and tickling each other.  Did I miss something there?  How can they be fighting one second and giggling together the next.  This has happened a couple of times more.  In each one, the transition from fighting to loving each other transpired in a blink of an eye.

My sister supposed that this “fighting” could be actually be part of their play.  If it is so,  I hope they play something less violent and more friendly and fun.  I am comforted though by the fact that each night before they go to bed, my toddlers say their prayers together (well, at least my daughter says her prayers while her little brother listens),  kiss each other good night and say their i-love-you’s.