3 Skills Kids Learn Through Pretend Play

When we hear of the word “play”, we often associate it with engaging games of tag, sports activities, or physical exploration of environments. Physical play, though, is just one of many types of play that children engage in. There’s Constructive Play where kids learn to create things using blocks, clay, and other manipulatives. Competitive Play where they pit their skills with others and learn how to be true sportsmen. Then there’s also Pretend Play.

In Pretend Play, kids assign roles and act them out. They pretend to be someone, or even something, else. As their imaginations come to life, kids develop a myriad of skills. They become creative, insightful, and well-rounded individuals.

Skills Learned Through Pretend Play

During Pretend Play, kids learn how the world works and how adults interact. Their gross and fine motor skills are also developed. Aside from these, here are three more skills kids learn and develop through pretend play:

Language Skills. Pretend Play encourages expressive language. When playing with others, kids learn that words give them the power to re-enact stories or create entirely out-of-this-world ones. Oftentimes, they use the words they hear from the ones closest to them so don’t be surprised to hear your own words (might be even in a perfectly good impersonation of you!) during their play.

Thinking Skills. There’s really more to Pretend Play than “just playing pretend”. Kids learn to solve problems, organize and plan activities, retell familiar stories, and apply gained knowledge. Their imagination, which is an important building block for learning, is greatly enriched.

Social-Emotional Skills. While creating their make-believe scenario, kids learn to cooperate and to negotiate in their role playing. They learn to take turns and share. Sometimes, they also learn how to deal with disappointment. While they pretend to be someone else, they also develop a sense of self and individuality. As they discover themselves and their capabilities, their self-esteem then increases allowing them to confidently interact with others.

How To Nurture Their Imagination

Allow Them To Create Their Own Scenario. The best stories unfold when children are given a freehand on who they want to be and where they want the stories set. It’s perfectly fine to be Batman riding a horse with Sheriff Callie while exploring a new red moon in outer space. Their pretend world is as vast as their imagination, give them complete control over it and watch them develop story lines a thousand times more interesting than your favorite stories. Letting them use the backyard as a setting can help them to develop exploratory skills as well as giving them new inspiration for their imaginations. Chammy IRL explains how to make sure your backyard is safe so that you can give them free reign of this new, exciting environment.

Provide Props and Costumes. Dress up costumes from Smiffys would be wonderful but even old clothes would do. Kitchen sets, Doctor kits, Shop stands, and other toys help make pretend play more realistic. You don’t have to spend an arm and a leg in props though. Even ordinary household items can be used in Pretend Play. In our home, a blanket becomes a tent, the stairs a mountain to climb, our chairs obstacles in a grand adventure. Empty boxes turn into airplanes, or boats, or cars, or rockets, or whatever else is needed for the kids’ imaginary kingdom.

Play With Them. Playing with your kids is a two-way learning process. From you, they learn how to communicate, interact, and rationalize. You, on the other hand, can learn to understand your kids more. You can even discover a few things about yourself too as kids are wont to mirror their parents’ behavior. So, next time your kids run to you asking you to be the High Queen in their kingdom, stop for awhile and play with them. Just a few minutes of your time is forever for them. Know that “play” for them is not just play – it’s a learning process.

Imaginative Play: When Bikes Turn into Horses

My kids are seldom allowed to play outside the house. Aside from school in the morning, the rest of the day is spent indoors. This may be boring to some but, thankfully, my kids are able to keep themselves entertained even while I’m doing house chores.

You see, though they may be stuck inside our home, my kids get to go to magical places – to any place their wild imagination can take them. One moment they’re Sophia the First and James having an adventure in their kingdom. The next moment, they’re helicopters spinning around or hovering over a mountain. Sometimes, they’re dinosaurs looking for food or animals in a zoo.

Jakei, No! Get off! That’s my horse.

In our home, their bikes turn into horses, big bolster pillows turn into boats, pillows are used to build houses, blankets become tents, and so forth. Even their toys come to life with names of their own – and voices too. Through their imagination, our home is so much bigger than the few square meters of space in our apartment unit.

What is imaginative play?

Imaginative play is the use of one’s imagination to create make-believe scenarios. This is when children are able to play different roles in various scenarios formed from their own wild imagination. Dressing up or using props can help make imaginary play more fun but they are not necessary at all. All you really need is a child – and a parent – full of fun ideas.

Why encourage imaginative play?

Imaginative play is a great way to develop a child’s imagination. Aside from developing a child’s imagination, imaginative play also helps develop verbal and social skills. Self-expression is encouraged and so is interacting with other children. It is also a good way for a child to understand his emotions and is in fact used as a therapy for emotionally disturbed children. Some studies even show that children who were encouraged to be imaginative had greater appetite for learning.

How to develop imagination?

Turn off the TV. My kids are allowed to watch child-friendly television shows but they are not allowed to stay glued in front of the television all day. I do let them watch a few of their favorite shows – Sophia the First, Jake and the Neverland Pirates, and Mia & Me being their current favorites; the stories of which often continues when the TV is turned off. I myself love watching my two preschoolers pretend to be Sophia and James or Izzy and Cubby more than watching the actual shows.

Read stories together. When my children were toddlers, we had plenty of board books with colorful pictures. Now that they can read, we’ve switched to short story books. Reading stories is a wonderful way to fuel their imagination. Aside from this, reading early in life and regularly fosters a deep love for books and the written word.

Tell stories together. Some parents may feel that they are bad storytellers and shy away from weaving stories of their own. The thing is, to a child there is no bad story. The mere fact that you are spending time with them is already something special for them. Your story – however boring or awful you think it is – is icing to the cake. I myself do run out of stories at times. In these cases, I let the kids help me weave the stories. You’d be surprised at how well a child can make wonderful stories.

These are just three easy things to do to start off your journey into imaginative play.  Do remember that it is supposed to be fun for everyone so don’t stress yourself trying to create the perfect scenario.  Kids are very easy to please and their imaginations naturally rich.  All they really need is a wee bit of encouragement from you.

On Filial Love – and War

My toddlers have started to fight over toys and over attention as well.  I have been told that fighting over toys is part of their social and emotional development.  Although it seems that their behavior is nothing out of the ordinary, it does bother me a lot.  I think any mother would be bothered to see their children fighting over a toy flailing wildly at each other.  But I think what bothers me most is how fast they get over the fight.

Once I saw both of them arms up high flailing at each other and both shouting “Mine! Mine!”  But before I could intercede lest they hurt each other really bad,  they were suddenly laughing and tickling each other.  Did I miss something there?  How can they be fighting one second and giggling together the next.  This has happened a couple of times more.  In each one, the transition from fighting to loving each other transpired in a blink of an eye.

My sister supposed that this “fighting” could be actually be part of their play.  If it is so,  I hope they play something less violent and more friendly and fun.  I am comforted though by the fact that each night before they go to bed, my toddlers say their prayers together (well, at least my daughter says her prayers while her little brother listens),  kiss each other good night and say their i-love-you’s.

Beyond Parallel Play

Toddlers ordinarily engage in what we call parallel play wherein they play in the same area and with the same toys but do not actually interact. If you observe toddlers in a play area, you’d most probably see each one caught up in their own worlds.  Children are normally expected to engage in cooperative play at the age of 4 or 5.

My toddlers defy this norm. Surprisingly, they do love to play with each other.  From the time we brought our son home from the hospital, his eldest sister has been a very doting sibling.  She loves being around him and is very protective of him.

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I don’t recall doing anything purposefully to encourage them to play together. I presume it could have been brought about by my husband and I’s efforts to actively play with the toddlers.  Or, perhaps, it has something to do with my eldest daughter being half of twins and, although not scientifically proven, has been accustomed to interaction even from within my womb.

Whatever the reason,  I am thankful that my children love each other and enjoy spending time together.  Now, I can only pray that they will retain this closeness even as they grow older and discover the world outside the confines of our home.

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